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Fruitful Summer Week Is Over. Now What?

What a great week with each of you celebrating Fruitful Summer, and this is only the beginning!

We talked a lot about making new friends, spent time together chatting about staying motivated on your summer goals, and talked about how to cultivate friendships in your life.

All week long we've had a blast reading your blog comments, listening to your stories via email, and hearing from you on social media, so we decided to keep it going!

Starting Wednesday, May 31st, Lara and I will be walking through the new Fruitful Friendships Workbook together every week through the entire summer! Grab your Workbook today to get it in time. We can't wait to get to know each of you better this summer!

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We've loved hearing how many of you are ready to dig into setting meaningful goals for the summer, so Lara has decided to host a live Get the Most Out of Your PowerSheets classnext Wednesday at noon on Facebook Live. No need to register--just mark your planner and be there!

 

 

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Celebrate Your Friendships with Traditions

Traditions help us cultivate connection through meaningful shared experiences. Guess what? You're never too old to start a new tradition! Whether it's something you've done before or a tradition you want to start, now is the perfect time to make it happen!

When I think about my favorite memories from my college years, it's easy to notice a thread-the place I called home my senior year of college, 2 Marilyn Lane. A house is just a shell, and what makes it a home are the people with whom you share it. We shared our lives-not perfectly, but willingly. One of my favorite traditions we have is gathering together for a weekend each year. No amount of technology can make up for time together, so early on we made a promise to prioritize in-person time together by planning a reunion weekend once a year. This trip consistently ends up being one of my favorite weekends each year!

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2 Marilyn Lane celebrating at a baby shower together last year

You might not have the finances or time to plan annual trips with your friends in this season of life, but that doesn't mean you have to wait to start traditions. We've created a list of friendship traditions you can start below!

Host a holiday gathering. Take it one step further and make it themed! An annual Friendsgiving potluck or an adult Easter egg hunt, the possibilities are endless!

Schedule monthly Google hangouts or FaceTimes with faraway friends. A group of my boyfriend's college housemates has started a monthly Google hangout on Saturday mornings. Everyone can join, and they get a chance to share big updates in their lives.

Start a group text message thread or photo stream. There's a good chance you already have this, and if so, start being more intentional with what you're communicating. Offer encouragement, ask for help, and send funny photos! It will help you feel connected to your friends throughout the day.

Take an annual vacation together. This takes some forethought and intentional planning, but it's worth it! Use Doodle to find a weekend that works for everyone, get creative about your locations, and start planning!

Start a traveling scrapbook. One of the traditions I want to start (you'll see it in my Fruitful Friendships Workbook!) is to create a notebook that is mailed from person to person. When it's received, the person will fill it out before mailing it to the next person! Whether it's funny memories from their week, a day in the life, photos, or anything, I know it will be a sweet and funny thing to look back on together.

That's a small list, but it's a start! Our Fruitful Friendships Workbook is full of lots of other ideas! It will also walk you through brainstorming and action steps, and then helps you transfer those goals to your PowerSheets.

I'd love to hear from you! What tradition do you want to start with your friends? Leave a comment below!

 

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How to Cultivate the Friendships in Your Life

One of my PowerSheets goals over the past two years is some iteration of loving others well, and while this is something I like to think comes naturally to me, in reality I know I have a long way to go! One of the hardest parts of an ambiguous goal like "love others well"? Figuring out tangible action steps for you to make little by little progress on that goal!

When we were working on creating the Fruitful Friendships Workbook, I was pretty adamant about having a section with Tending List ideas so that you could easily transfer them to your PowerSheets Tending List each month. We didn't want the Workbook to be just a pretty magazine you flipped through; we wanted it to be practical and encouraging as you cultivated friendship in your life.

I'll share a few of the ideas below based on where it could fall on your Tending List (monthly, weekly or daily goals). I'd love to hear how you incorporate friendship tending into your goal-setting routine, too!

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Monthly Tending List Ideas

Make a list of things your friends love. I keep a running note on my phone of things my friends love or things I need to know about them. A few ideas: their favorite candy, shirt size, any significant holidays or milestones, their Starbucks or Chipotle order. The possibilities are endless here!  The times I feel the most loved are often because someone is recalling a detail about me that seems insignificant, but shows that they listen to me.

Plan a summer meet-up to bring together friends in your community! We created an entire meet-up packet to make this easier for you! Send a text, post it on Facebook, or email a group, and start making new friends in your neighborhood.

Leave an unexpected treat on your friend's porch. Whether it's a sweet treat you baked or a small gift you picked up at your favorite shop, it's sure to be a fun thing for your friend to come home to at the end of the day. Bonus if you download one of our bright notecards or punny gift tags.
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Weekly Tending List Ideas

Call a friend. I've oftentimes said I am a terrible long-distance friend, but here's the thing, picking up the phone for a catch-up call or Facetime isn't that hard! Adding this to your monthly PowerSheets is a great way to stay accountable while showing your faraway friends that the distance isn't keeping you from caring about their life.

Send a gratitude note. My best tip for gratitude notes? Keep stamps and notes together and in a place where you are often sitting. For me, it's my top desk drawer or my car (in case I have a few minutes to spare). It'll make it so much easier to write a quick note of thanks or encouragement to someone.

Offer to pick up something for a friend on a grocery run. If you're already headed on an errand, why not text a friend to see if there's anything you can pick up for them and drop off at their home? A new momma might especially appreciate having someone offer to grab a new pack of diapers as they're throwing the last one away and preparing to load the baby in the car.
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Daily Tending List Ideas

Respond to your text messages. How often do you get a text message, read it, and then wait to respond at a "better time"? No one else? Just me? I might be preaching to myself here since I'm the worst at responding to texts (I have 5 currently sitting unread on my phone). Here's the thing: if your friend were to ask you a question to your face, would you turn away and not respond? Absolutely not! So don't treat them that way with your electronic device. I'm working hard on this, and I've added it to my PowerSheets daily goals for a few months now.

Make eye contact. Commit to looking your friend in the eyes when she is talking to you. Nothing is more distracting and hurtful than watching a friend look around or worse, check their phone when you are spending time together.

Encourage someone. Smile, and offer a genuine compliment to someone today.

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There are more Tending tips in our Fruitful Friendships Workbook as well as worksheets to help you set friendship goals. We created each of our companion guides to be used in conjunction with PowerSheets, so if you're not a PowerSheets user, now's the perfect time to join us!

Our Fruitful Summer Bundle is available to help you set meaningful summer goals and grow meaningful friendships this season. It includes a set of Six-Month Undated PowerSheets Workbook in White, Fruitful Friendship Workbook, Fruitful Summer Postcard Set, and Take the Leap Mini Print.

Save the date for Wednesday, May 31st when Lara and I are going to work through the Fruitful Friendship Workbook LIVE alongside each of you on Facebook! We can't wait to spend some time together chatting about our friendships. Grab your copy today so you can have it in time for our hang-out!

 

 

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Summer Goals: Why You’re Missing Out By Not Setting Them

Will you sit with me while I tell you a brutal truth? You accomplish 0% of the goals you never start! You can't make progress on something you don't even start.

That dream job you want? You can't be considered if you don't even apply.

That half marathon you want to run? You can't run 13 miles if you don't first run one.

The marriage you want to save? It needs your attention and time.

You know all those things you've always wanted to do? You should go do them. Plain and simple.

I know what you're thinking. "That's easier said than done, Jess!" or "Easy for you to say! You work for a company that teaches goal-setting!"

But here's the thing, friends. We (ME!) are not goal-setting experts. There are some months where it's sudden May 15th and our PowerSheets are blank (cough ME cough). Lara has said before that traditional goal-setting gives her the heebie jeebies, and we agree! Goals can be overwhelming when they aren't connected to what matters. They can make life busier. What we do is different; it's grace-filled goal-setting. Powerful goals-meaningful goals-simplify your life and help you take action. They help you live with intention and purpose instead of on accident. Good goals remind you that the little by little you put in each day add up to a flourishing life.

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Our Fruitful Summer bundle is available in our shop if you want accountability in your goals!

Doesn't that sound much better? Like something you can get behind? If so (and we sure hope so!), I have a two next steps for you. Remember, you accomplish 0% of the goals you never start!

Download our Summer Goals Printable, and start brainstorming the things you want to accomplish this summer.

Join us for Lara's free live Summer Goals class today at noon EST. Bring that printout or your PowerSheets with you! She's giving you her top ten tips for uncovering good goals, and doing something about them. If you can't watch live, that's okay too! Be sure to sign up, and you'll get access to a replay in your inbox!

That's it! Two steps that will take two hours max.

Oh, and because I'd be a bad friend for not mentioning this, our Fruitful Summer giveaway is live on Lara's blog! We had a blast brainstorming these products to help you have an intentional summer, and I cannot wait to package up these goodies for the lucky winner! Head to her blog to enter to win today!

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How to Make New Friends

Can we all just take a moment to acknowledge how difficult it is to actually make new friends? Not just social media friends, but real "I'm-calling-you-right-now-because-I-need-you" friends. Gone are my college days when I was surrounded by thousands of other undergrads looking to make lifelong friends, and now I'm faced with what feels like an incredibly daunting task of building new friendships as someone in their mid-twenties.

Whether you've just moved to a new city for a new job or are simply looking to make some new friends in this season of life, we wanted to offer some of our best tips for you!

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Fight the fear. This might be the hardest, but most important tip of all! It's so easy to look at a friendship that went wrong or your lack of girlfriends this current season and believe that you just aren't cut out to have good girlfriends. If I could, I'd politely grab your face, look you in the eyes, and say "that, my friend, is a lie." We created our Fruitful Friendships Workbook to help you walk through who you are and what you hope to find and grow in friendships. There's also a section for you to reflect on past friendships-both good and hard-to find common threads. Similar to PowerSheets Prep Work, reflecting on these things help you uncover what's important to you as you cultivate these new friendships!

Start with who you know! Take advantage of the friends who say "Oh, you should meet ___! You'd totally get along!" Whether it's someone who lives in the new city you're moving to, or a friend with a common interest, ask a friend to connect you to that person, and then reach out to them to schedule a time to hang out. If any of my friends say, "Jess, you should totally meet ____; she loves guacamole and reading" you can bet that girl is going to get a follow-up email or text message from me!

Commit to something you love that meets regularly. The key here is to find an event that occurs regularly; it doesn't have to be every week, just consistently so it's already on your calendar! One of our Editors, Emily, created an Articles Club along with a friend of hers and used her social media platforms to invite local friends! Nicole signed up for a local pottery class last year. My boyfriend and his friend's in Atlanta are on a bocce team that plays once a week. The opportunities are endless! Whether it's a mom's group, a small group through your faith community, a sport league, a skills class or a book club, there are so many ways to find friends who have common interests or are in the same season of life as you.

Embrace awkward. We've already established that making friends is hard, and it doesn't happen overnight. Learn more about how (and why!) to embrace awkward in your friendships-both new and old. As Lara says, perfect the art of the awkward pause and wait for all the good that is to come! Get out there, ask lots of questions, and don't be tempted to fill in the silence. My favorite conversation starter? What's one thing that is keeping you up at night? It's a pretty simple question on the surface, but it opens the conversation up to go past surface level. Sign up for our Fruitful Summer series for our free conversation seeds and other second questions to try!

Be available. Some of my favorite friendships have come from simply saying yes, even when I'm tired (especially when I'm tired!) When you receive an invitation, be open to stepping out and saying yes. Obviously, if you need some alone time or have already scheduled two things that evening, you can say no. However, don't fall into the trap of just wanting to go home and change into your pajamas at 6pm (please tell me I'm not the only one who does this?!)

Challenge yourself! Add one of these tips to your PowerSheets Tending List this month as a challenge to yourself! If you're looking for more ways to get started, page 25 of our Fruitful Friendships Workbook is full of ideas that have worked for the Cultivate team as well as tips sourced directly from each of you (you guys are seriously full of so much wisdom!)

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My final piece of advice? Find friends that think you're hilarious :) Photo by Olivia Suriano of Nancy Ray Photography

What do you have to add to this list? Leave a comment with the craziest way you've made a new friend!

 

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