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Seven Reasons Your Goals Aren’t Working

You know those goals swirling around in your head? The ideas you've only shared with those closest to you—or perhaps no one at all? You're ready to bring them to life but something's standing in your way. We want to help!

Unsure about this whole goal-setting thing? That's okay! Our personalities affect how we set and achieve goals, and sometimes all of us need a kick in the pants to finally move forward. Ready to bust some goal-getting myths once and for all? Let's do it!

1. "It takes a lot of time to set goals."
Ever wonder why Ted Talks are exactly 18 minutes—no more, no less? Let's get fancy and talk neuroscience for a minute. There's this thing called cognitive backlog. Research shows that our brains process an ideal amount of information to affect change in 18 to 20 minutes. Any less and our brains don't get enough info to commit—sort of like speed dating. Any more, and our stress receptors go up and we fall into cognitive overload—it's simply too much! There's a sweet spot that helps our brains connect to what matters. How does this help us with our goals? It takes an average of 18 minutes per month to do the 8 goal setting pages in the PowerSheets—guided worksheets that help you prioritize your time, energize your life, and eliminate unnecessary to-do's. If it only took two minutes a month, you wouldn't get much out of it! Your brain would forget and you'd find yourself at the end of another year wondering where it went. 18 minutes is just what you need! That's about the same amount of time it takes to watch a TV show (minus commercials), fold a load of laundry, meal plan for the week, get ready for work, tidy the house, unload the dishwasher 3 times, or prep for dinner. These 18 minutes is different, though—these 18 minutes helps you prioritize what matters and use your time intentionally instead of by accident. A lot can happen in 18 minutes. This 18 minutes could change your life. Feel like you don't have any time to spare? In 2018 so far, Americans have spent an average of 40 minutes a day on social media. Such a great perspective! What would happen if we traded a little social media time for life-giving goal time? Our hearts are doing cartwheels just thinking about it! 18 minutes is the sweet spot your brain needs to connect to what matters and become convinced to act on it.

2. "I'm just a fill in the blank."
You fight feelings of not being enough at times, saying to yourself that you are "just" a student, "just" a stay-at-home mom, "just" an empty-nester—or whatever it is that creeps into your heart from time to time (or perhaps all the time). We all have those moments where comparison or cultural pressures try to tell us we're not enough. There's so much noise out there and we're here to help you cut right through it so you can live out what matters to you. It's time to lay some truth down, friends! You're not just anything—you're YOU. Marvelous, wonderful you! And your goals matter enough to cultivate them—growing them over time as you take small steps forward (and some big leaps along the way, too). You were put on this Earth for a reason, and it's time to make it happen. Next time the "just's" start trying to crush your goal-getting mojo, get after them and say this out loud: I am just ME! Marvelous, intentional, perfectly imperfect ME!

3. "My goals don't feel lofty enough – I just want to be able to finish my laundry every week!"
All hail the magic of finished laundry! :) How do you balance the day-to-day with the big-picture, though? It can feel impossible, can't it? Our daily to-dos can press in on us most days, leaving no time for anything else. "Big" goals? Ha! Maybe someday when there's no more laundry to do (never)! On top of that, when we see other people's goals that seem "bigger" than ours, it can make a girl feel like her life is going nowhere. Ready for some really good news? The mundane takes on a whole new meaning when you look at it through a cultivated lens. Little conversations on a lunch break with a new friend can add up to a lifelong friendship. Practicing piano for five minutes a day can add up to a life of music. Little by little, the small things add up to the big things. The seemingly small everyday things add up to a life. Our lives will bloom through daily decisions and habits—daily tending, nurturing, and pruning—not just the giant leaps made once in a while—laundry included. It matters. The big leaps are important, but the way we live every moment—even the seemingly mundane parts of our days—can add up to a life of purpose.
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4. "Taking time to set my own goals feels selfish."
You are speaking our language! It definitely can be. That's why we do things differently. Instead of focusing only on ourselves without thinking of anyone else, we are here to guide you to intentionally fill your well so you can love others. Think about it. What would happen to the people in your life if you lived out your purpose and used your gifts and talents well? Would they be blessed too? If the answer is yes, lean in. Taking time to prioritize is like planting seeds for everyone around you—little by little you'll gain new energy and focus to cultivate what matters in your life. That creates a ripple effect in the lives of those around you, too! Cultivated goal setting is about loving others well.

5. "The PowerSheets are too pretty; I don't want to mess them up!"
Gather 'round. Let's chat, my friend! First of all, you are not alone! When we get a new journal, or notepad, or PowerSheets, it can be tempting to want to keep them looking pristine. But. But but but! Real talk: where is that going to get you? Are you going to let your pen choice or handwriting stop you from making what matters happen? Didn't think so. Make a mess! ;)

6. "I'm afraid of failing."
Us too! And ready for some good news? That's good! If you're scared, it means you care about that thing! It's a sign there's something there worth conquering. Fear is an opportunity. When you get honest about what's holding you back, you open yourself to good change. Little by little, you exchange a life of fear for a life that fires you up!

7. "I'm scared to know my purpose."
Do you know what's funny? More of us are afraid of success than we are of failure. Why is that, though? For many of us, the thought of knowing our purpose and actually succeeding in it feels like it's going to be a big life change. (Are you feeling that?) And sometimes, it can feel impossible, right? (Feeling that too??) For a moment, though, let's just imagine it. How would you feel if you knew you were living on purpose instead of by accident? What would that look like? How would your life change if you had clear goals and a quiet confidence in your path? It's almost hard to imagine, isn't it!? We can feel so far away from getting there. But, that's the beauty of cultivating. Success doesn't happen overnight, and it doesn't need to. Little by little, as you lean into your purpose, and away from all the noise out there, you will feel equipped and confident. We're here to guide you and cheer you on every step of the way!

In case you haven't already, bookmark this post for the days you need a refresh (we all do!), and get ready for some real motivation when the 2019 PowerSheets Collection launches on October 24th!

You know all those things you've always wanted to do? You are ready to go DO them!

Your turn! Which point was your favorite? Did one stand out to you? We can't wait to hear from you in the comments below!

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What’s Your Goal-Getting Personality? [FREE QUIZ]

If you've spent any amount of time around me, you know I'm a big personality test geek! One of my biggest contributions to the Cultivate team is getting everyone hooked on the Enneagram. Why? Because I firmly believe learning more about ourselves will only help us achieve our goals in the long run. Did you know your personality influences more than how you set goals? It actually affects how you achieve them, too!

Maybe you have a long list of ideas floating around in your head and need help choosing a few to focus on. Maybe you're so good at checking things off your list you've lost sight of what matters most to you. Maybe you need a gentle nudge to take a leap of faith and put your goals on paper. Or maybe, just maybe, you're skeptical of this whole goal-setting thing in general.

We get it! And guess what? We want to help you! Not only will our Goal-Getting Personality Quiz help you uncover your personality, but we'll also give you a list of blog posts, Cultivate Shop products, and resources to help you make things happen–no perfection required!

I'm curious! What did you get? Was it accurate? Leave a comment, and let me know your personality!

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20 ‘How To’s’ to Help You Cultivate What Matters

We made it to the halfway point of the year! These past six months have been full of so much little by little progress, but we firmly believe the very is yet to come!

Our Four Favorites Summer Sale is happening in the shop now through Monday, July 9th! Four of our favorite products are on sale for up to 25% off–The Goal Setting Sticker BookTending TapeMake it Happen Book and Encouragement Postcards!

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The Cultivate team will be in and out of the office this week as well—traveling, spending time with our families, and taking some time to invest in our own PowerSheets goals: rest and recharge (perhaps even going social media-free for portions of our time away!)

Meanwhile, here's a list of 20 how-to's to help you cultivate what matters in the second half of the year:

How to use Powersheets and how they might change your life
How to use your tending tape
How to make a tending list
How to use Tending Tape in your PowerSheets (and other places, too!)

How to celebrate progress
How to make little by little progress
How to be present
How to get unstuck 

How to get things done
How to have a low information diet
How to stay off of social media 
How to act on your financial goals 

How to cultivate friendships
How to make what matters happen
How to cultivate what matters in finance and wellness
How to take your leap of faith

How to cultivate your faith
How to cultivate faith with kids
How to leave a legacy 
How to know what to read all the summer

We hope that these words inspire, encourage, and re-energize you to get going on your goals!

We’d love to hear from you! Have we posted a blog post that helped you cultivate what matters in your life? What other content would you like to see? Share in the comments below!

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Join us at the 2019 PowerSheets Photo Shoot

We created the PowerSheets to help women in all seasons of life uncover purpose-filled goals and plan action steps to cultivate what matters, right where they are. They are not exclusively for mothers or business owners; they can be used by anyone who needs a grace-filled system that works!

As we prep for our 2019 PowerSheets Launch later this fall, we want to continue to tell YOUR stories through our PowerSheets imagery, and we need your help!

We're looking for a diverse group of women–all ages and all seasons of life–who aren't afraid of being in front of the camera to join us for our 2019 PowerSheets photo shoot on July 17 and 18th in Chapel Hill, NC. You don't have to be a PowerSheets user to join us, though our hope is you will be by the time the shoot is over!

To apply, please fill out this form! There's no need for professional photos–we just want to see your smile!

Feel a little shy in front of the camera? We'd still love for you to join us! We're looking for a few women to join us on site and be an extra pair of helping hands. (Bonus points if you find immense joy in steaming wrinkles out of clothes!) Tell us more about yourself here!

We promise it’s going to be a blast, and we can't wait to hear from you!

P.S. When we say we're looking for diverse women of all ages, we mean it! Our demographic stretches from 20 to 60, and we would love to hear from YOU!

Please note that you must be 18 or older to apply, and we are not able to compensate for travel/participation.

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Welcome to Mid-Year Goals Prep Week

Today kicks off an exciting week in the Cultivate office: Mid-Year Goals Prep Week! Whether you're a brand new PowerSheets user or want some extra encouragement to keep tending to those goals, there's something this week for you.

The most important thing this week?

Take one step forward. Just one!

We believe there's power in each and every intentional step you take. If you take more than one step forward, that's great, too!

What do you need to move forward on your goals and take that one step? Choose your adventure this week:

Need a kick in the pants? Join us for daily live coaching.
Need help getting started with your PowerSheets? Read on in this post!
Need some goal-getter friends to cheer you on?Cultivate Community Groups are here!
Need some real-life examples from others? Be sure to follow us on social for inspiring stories and daily pep talks.
Need some motivation to take that action step you’ve been putting off? This is where we’re gonna get a little crazy. We’re going to take those action steps LIVE together!

But first, I'm going to ask you a question: What can you do right now to love your December self well?

Is there something you can say no to, giving you room for something more important?

Can you make a decision now that will bear fruit by the time December rolls around?

What habit could cultivate now that will help you love your December self well?

If you're like me, I'll bet you have an answer for each of these questions! Where I want to be in December doesn't happen overnight. Others might believe in quick fixes, but around here, we cultivators embrace little by little progress.

And that's what this week is all about. By spending time working on our PowerSheets together, we’re going plant the seeds now for the good things we want to grow in the second half of the year!

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Brand new to PowerSheets? How exciting! Over the course of this week, we’ll break down our proven process and walk you through your workbook day-by-day and page-by-page. The PowerSheets Prep Work has instructions on each worksheet for you to get started (it’s like having a coach in your back pocket!), but the Cultivate team wants to take it one step further and cheer you on. Each day, a different CWM gal will walk you through a piece of the PowerSheets Prep Work on Facebook Live at 3 pm ET. Sign up to join us!

Have goals you want to make progress on? Consider us your biggest cheerleaders! We've created a Cultivate Goal-Getter's Board in the office to celebrate YOU! When you take just ONE step on any of your goals this week, tell us! Leave a comment on Instagram or tell us in a Facebook Live, and we'll add your name to our board. Just like the progress bars on your Tending List, there's something exciting about seeing visual proof of progress!

Need some extra encouragement from fellow PowerSheets friends? Join our PowerSheets Facebook Group to find like-minded ladies near you! Once you do, consider starting (or joining!) a monthly meet-up with local friends using our brand new Community Groups resources.

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Your turn! Leave a comment and let us know if you have your PowerSheets in hand and are planning to tune in this week! Introduce yourself. Tell us where you live! How are you feeling about your goals? I'd love to see how many friends we'll be spending time with this week!

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