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Three Lessons Lacoya Learned from Giving Up Social Media

Here at Cultivate What Matters we're big believers in social media-free weekends and intentional time away from our phones. This spills over into everything we do, including the Making Things Happen Conference!

One of the core components of the MTH Conference is being able to dig deep into what matters most free from any distractions. To make this easy for our attendees, we provide a safe home for all cell phones so they can focus on uncovering what matters without the temptation of a buzzing phone nearby.

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When we interviewed MTH Conference Alum, Lacoya Heggie, for our monthly MTH Alum newsletter a few weeks ago, we were intrigued when she mentioned recently taking a long hiatus from social media.

We love seeing our MTH Alum live out what they learn from the conference, and we learned so much from her interview that we wanted to invite her to share a bit more about her experience with the Cultivate community.

What prompted you to go on a social media hiatus?

I decided to take a hiatus from social media for several reasons.

I felt like I was becoming more invested in the surface relationships of Facebook (not to demean those relationships in any way) than I was the relationships that I could be forming in my very own community. I was also becoming overwhelmed with all of the social media inspiration that comes from everywhere about everything.

I had just made the firm decision to transition out of wedding planning and pursue a different direction in my career. I needed some alone time to zone in on what I wanted versus what my brain was telling me I wanted from what I was consuming via social media.class="s1">There are so many pretty things and microscopic lenses into everyone's lives on social media that you can really lose focus and get your goals and desires jumbled up based on what you see, what you think you want, and what looks great.

It's hard to focus on what matters most to you when you're constantly looking at what everyone else around you is working towards.

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What lessons have you learned from your social media hiatus?

1. Focus on pursuing my own, organically-created goals.

Focus, focus, focus. What does our family desire our lives to look like? What do I like to do? What could I, realistically (with my life and my schedule and household income), pursue as a career? What do I need to work on and perfect? FOCUS on MY house and what we want - not on what I see via social media.

2. Don't take social media personally.

class="s1">What I do, how I view myself, those around me (anything personal that I need to think on and determine), will not be determined by what I see on Instagram or Facebook. Some people have a great life but don't have an Instagram. Just because a person seems insanely successful on social media, doesn't mean their life is perfect. The break was exactly what I needed to sever the tie that tricks people into taking things personally on social media.

3. Social media is a tool.

There are some great things about social media, like getting to stay in touch with friends and family, but, in the realm of business—social media is a tool.

Most importantly I've learned that my identity, worth, and value does not come from a virtual platform. It comes from the very real reality of the life that I live, the wife that I am, the mom that I am, the sister that I am, and the amount of time that I spend cultivating my friends right where I am.

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Isn't it great to hear from Lacoya? We firmly believe social media isn't a bad thing when it is used purposefully (it's how we've met so many of you!), and eliminating yourselves from social media entirely isn't always an option.

However, when you use social media and your times of connectivity on purpose, it becomes intentional. Write out a mission statement for how and why you will use it well. Post that mission statement to your computer or desk where you will see it often. If you find yourself mindlessly using social media again, check your motive and get back to cultivating what matters in your life!

Do you need time to unplug and focus on uncovering what matters most to you? The Making Things Happen Conference is for you! We give you two days of intentional time to start uncovering the things that are important to you, knowing that time away is an investment in yourself and will create a ripple effect, impacting those around you, too.

Are you ready to take the leap and join us at Making Things Happen? Now through July 31st, you can get nearly 50% off your ticket with the early-bird rate! Register now

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Meet the Fall 2018 MTH Encouragers!

It's been an exciting week in the Cultivate office as we celebrate Mid-Year Goals Prep Week, and we couldn't think of a better time to introduce our Fall Encouragement Speakers for our Making Things Happen Conference. These ladies are eager to cheer you on (in person!) as you take the next step to uncovering what matters, making a plan, and tending to it!

Every year, in Chapel Hill, NC, women just like you from all over the world and in all seasons of life, come together for the Making Things Happen Conference to do just that: make what matters happen. Our team likes to describe Making Things Happen as doing PowerSheets in person. MTH gives you a chance to step away from the busyness and distractions of everyday life to uncover meaningful intentional goals. There's nothing quite like it!

At Making Things Happen you'll dig deep but, you won't do it alone! Our founder, Lara Casey, is there to walk you through every step of the process! Eight incredible women come alongside Lara and serve as our team of Encouragement Speakers. Our Encouragers are women deeply passionate about helping you uncover what matters. They'll share their personal stories and encourage you in break-out sessions to bravely dig deeper together.

We're excited to introduce our Fall 2018 Encouragement Speakers and hear more of why they're excited about Making Things Happen and what advice they have for our future attendees!

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Lara Casey

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What She's Most Excited for: "Meeting YOU! Hearing your stories and watching transformations happen and light bulbs go off is a gift I don't take for granted. I can't wait to meet you!"

Her Encouragement for Attendees: "If you are able, stay at the Carolina Inn with other attendees and be sure to go to the fireside chats each night. That's where you'll build a community that will last a lifetime. You only get those two days together—make them count! And trust that everyone else is just as nervous as you are. Those nerves will fly out the window when we get started though!

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Heidi Dawson

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What She's Most Excited for: "I am looking forward to sharing and listening to how others not only overcome the valleys in life and business but how to enjoy the mountaintops as well."

Her Encouragement for Attendees: "Don’t believe everything that you think."

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Shunta Grant

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What She's Most Excited for: "I am looking forward to witnessing every woman in attendance experience the gift of taking two days out for herself to discover what matters most in her life and then do something about it!"

Her Encouragement for Attendees: "Come with no agenda other than to embrace the time spent together with honesty and an open heart and mind. It's going to be so good!"

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Gina Zeidler

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What She's Most Excited for: "Time to reflect, REVIVE and encourage each attendee and watch the transformation."

Her Encouragement for Attendees: "Get excited. I'm so proud of you for investing in YOU! I know you might feel all sorts of upside down, but JUST WAIT!"

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Maghon Taylor

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What She's Most Excited for: "I can't wait to speak encouragement and life into each attendee at MTH this fall! I enjoy this experience year after year and I feel like everyone who is in the room is there at that exact moment for a reason."

Her Encouragement for Attendees: "I was afraid too. I was worried about making friends, meeting people in my same industry, crying too much, my outfit -- the list goes on. I never thought about any of these fears after walking through the doors. Come as you are. This is going to change your life in the best way."

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Amber Housley

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What She's Most Excited for: "I am most looking forward to having these two days to reflect and be refreshed alongside dozens of other women. It's truly inspiring to be in a room with women who want to live an intentional life. It's magic!"

Her Encouragement for Attendees: "Come just as you are, right where you are."

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Katelyn James

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What She's Most Excited for: "I'm looking forward to sharing and encouraging attendees with what I have walked through in my recent season. I've learned so much about how even the darkest seasons can produce life-giving fruit."

Her Encouragement for Attendees: "There is no season that is too hard or too dark where transformation can't take place. Whatever season that you're in, it's purposeful!"

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Natascha Trapp

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What She's Most Excited for: "I'm looking forward to my first experience with the MTH Conference, making new friends, and focusing on the goals I know the Lord has called me to."

Her one piece of encouragement for attendees: "Take the leap!"

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Nancy Ray

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What She's Most Excited for: "I’m most looking forward to two days of no interruptions. No phone, no distractions, just focusing on my heart and my future. Every single time I go to MTH, it is the greatest gift to step away from life and gain perspective on my health, my relationships, my faith, and my family."

Her Encouragement for Attendees: "You’ll get out of it what you put into it. The more vulnerable you are, the better… there is no judgment in that room! Also, wear waterproof mascara and don’t wear jeans. You’ll be more comfy, I promise!"

We are thrilled that each of our Encouragement Speakers is taking the time to join us this fall, and we can't wait for you to learn from them!

Are you ready to take the leap and join us? Register nowNow through July 31st, you can get nearly 50% off your ticket with the early-bird rate!

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Making Things Happen Conference Spring 2018 Recap

Each year in our company PowerSheets, our team lists the things that fire us up. It won't be a surprise to know that at the top of the list year after year is hosting the Making Things Happen Conference! What is the Making Things Happen Conference?

The Making Things Happen Conference began in 2009 after Lara posted a blog entry answering the question, "Lara, how do you make things happen?" From a whirlwind tour across the country to settling down in Chapel Hill, so much has changed in MTH's history! Last month, we gathered to celebrate nine years of MTH, and host our 53rd conference!

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After taking a break from our fall conference last year, it was hard to hide our excitement for our newest group of attendees. Almost 100 ladies said yes to taking a leap of faith and joined us at our Spring Intensive at the Carolina Inn in Chapel Hill, NC.

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When asked how to describe MTH, we often have a hard time putting the experience into words. We could write out a schedule for the two days, but that doesn't do justice to the space given the to help attendees uncover what matters most and do something about it. Every year, women of all different ages, professions, and backgrounds join us for a two-day intensive to uncover their goals and take action.

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Behind every MTH Conference is our Encouragement Crew. The Encouragement Crew is made up of past attendees who selflessly volunteer their time to come back and encourage our attendees. They greet our attendees with bright smiles, warm hugs, and are always nearby to lend a hand when needed.

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Making things happen means learning to say NO to what is holding you back, and YES to your unique assignment–not someone else’s assignment.

One of the core components of MTH is being able to dig deep free from any distractions. To make this easy for our attendees, we provide a safe home for all cell phones so they can focus free of distractions! This often seems daunting to many attendees, but we hear time and time again how it's one of their favorite parts of the conference!

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Each conference we welcome an incredible group of encouragement speakers to share their stories and encouragement for attendees. This isn't a panel of women talking to our attendees; they do the hard work alongside them, and selflessly poured into the lives of our MTH attendees.

Why? Because at the end of the day, this conference isn't about them.

It's about our attendees. The ladies who bravely stood up and shared their stories. The ladies who took the time to put to paper their deepest fears and greatest dreams. These ladies who gave their dreams a voice–planting seeds from which good things will grow.

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Making things happen means making decisions that will get you to where you want to be when you’re 80 years old.

"This is hands down one of the most life-giving experiences I have ever been a part of. MTH provided me the opportunity for concentrated time to explore the possibilities of what an intentional life-giving life looks like. I went in feeling stuck. Stuck in my career, stuck in my thoughts process of wanting to make things happen and not sure how to, stuck in the idea of possibilities, stuck in believing lies from the enemy, and stuck in wanting someone to give me a blueprint for success. I left the conference not with a blueprint or with someone telling me how to fix my circumstances, but with hope, courage, and authority. Hope that things CAN and WILL change, authority to make them happen and the courage to keep going when I'm not sure what is next." -Paige

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Making things happen means taking risks, taking action, and embracing tension.

"Attending MTH was arguably one of the best things I've ever done for myself. It was worth every penny and every ounce of effort it took for me to get there. Before MTH, I was tired and feeling a little hopeless. Life felt stagnant, like I was going through the motions without much forward progression. MTH reminded me of my own agency, of my responsibility to myself and others, to continue moving forward and to live for something better. I left knowing I was created for more! I'm so grateful, now, for the work I have ahead of me." -Meghan

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Making things happen–the right things–changes everything.

"I had wanted to attend MTH for many years, but this year I just decided to take the leap! I’m SO glad that I did; it was a life-changing experience. From start to finish, I felt cared for, encouraged and challenged to step out of my identity box. Life is too short not to live on purpose!"  -Taryn

MTH is unlike any other conference. It’s like doing PowerSheets in person and meeting a group of women who think like you and will cheer you on in every step forward. Together, we uncover what matters to you and do something about it. When you join us at Making Things happen, you join a community of more than 1,000 like-minded women across the world who have chosen to take the leap and make what matters happen.

Are you ready to uncover your goals and take action? Our team would love to invite you to join us at the Fall MTH Conference!

The Details: September 24-25, 2018 at The Carolina Inn, Chapel Hill, NC 

It's time to take the leap! Our Early-Bird Rate (more than 50% off ticket price) ends on July 31st! Payment plans are available; email Kristin@CultivateWhatMatters.com for more information! Register today!

Want to take a peek inside the conference? Take a look here. I can’t wait to see you thereGET YOUR SEAT NOW.

We'd love to hear from you: what do you want to make happen?

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New Dates and a New Logo for MTH Conference

Our team just wrapped up two days with 96 women who took a bold leap of faith and made a choice to live on purpose. And now, we want to invite you to do the same.

The Making Things Happen Intensive (affectionately known as MTH Conference) is the first of its kind. This two-day intensive, led by Lara Casey, author of Make it Happen and Cultivate, is intentionally designed to fire you up and set you on a powerful path. Together, attendees dig deep, establish priorities, uncover a purposeful vision for their lives, set goals, and discover how to make what matters most happen. Making Things Happen was founded on the idea that each attendee has the choice to change your life.

Making things happen means knowing that you don’t have to do it all, be it all, or have it all.

Making things happen is about focusing on what MATTERS–on growing what lasts longer than you.

When everyone else was saying, “Do more! Be more!” we began teaching something entirely different: do less. Do what matters.

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Who is MTH for? This is where MTH is different from other conferences. You won’t be listening to a panel of speakers tell you how to do things; you’ll be led through a powerful process where YOU uncover good goals and make an action plan that fits your specific life and dreams. MTH is for everyone: love-at-home moms, corporate CEO’s, students, creatives, non-creatives, and everyone in between have joined us over the last nine years. Whether you know what you want to make happen and need an action plan, or you need help uncovering good goals, MTH is for you. And all ages join us: from college freshmen to women in their 60’s who are ready for a new chapter in life. The unifying factor is a desire to live intentionally and make the most of your time and gifts.

Over the past 53 MTH Conference experiences, our 1000+ alumni have made dreams come to life, launched new businesses, left behind unfulfilling habits, transformed marriages and families, and helped thousands of other women live on purpose too.

In the same way that the heartbeat of the MTH Conference changed over the past few years, we knew it was time to make another change. The MTH Conference needed a new look–one that represented our mission. One that represented the hope that the seeds attendees planted during their time with us would be just the beginning and those good things would grow over time.

Our new logo represents the fresh start each attendee takes when they join us for two days of uncovering what matters most and making an action plan.

The Details: September 24-25, 2018 at The Carolina Inn, Chapel Hill, NC 

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We believe beautiful things grow out of getting messy and doing the hard work, and MTH is the start of that. At MTH, Lara and our team of guest encouragers will ask you challenging questions. She'll ask you to be honest with yourself and use your voice to banish your fears. In many ways, you'll do PowerSheets in person alongside her. It's time to listen to the voice in your head telling you it's worth investing in yourself!

Take the leap, and join us in Chapel Hill, NC this September! We can't wait to help you uncover your goals and start making them happen!

Our Early-Bird Rate (more than 50% off ticket price) ends on July 31st, and we have payment plans available; email Kristin@CultivateWhatMatters.com! Register today!

I'd love to hear from you! Big or small–what have you invested in for yourself recently? Leave a comment below!

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Meet the MTH Encouragers!

One of the best parts of the PowerSheets community is getting to know other women: sharing our stories, celebrating our progress, and encouraging each other in our struggles. And nowhere is that more true than at the Making Things Happen Conference!

Making Things Happen is primarily about you, your process, and your story. We encourage each attendee to bravely step into the unknown, and walk through the process with open hands. The best part? The attendees don't do it alone. Lara Casey, our Founder, is there to walk them through each step of the process!

Alongside Lara, we have an encouragement team of eight other women who come alongside our attendees, sharing a little bit more of their own stories  and encouraging then in break-out groups as they dig deeper together.

We're excited to introduce our March 2018 Encouragers and hear more of why they're excited about Making Things Happen and what advice they have for our future attendees!

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Lara Casey

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What She's Most Excited for: "Making things happen means knowing that you don’t have to do it all, be it all, or have it all. MTH is about focusing on what MATTERS–on growing what lasts longer than you. Each time I lead this conference, I do the work alongside the attendees. And every time I'm changed, refreshed, and readied with a new action plan in hand."

Her Encouragement for Attendees:  "Remember that making a mess doesn't mean you become one. At MTH, we uncover what matters to us, and do something about it. The best things in life grow little by little, and MTH is the start of that."

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Amber Housley

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What She's Most Excited for: "I am most looking forward to embracing a new season! There are always new ideas and opportunities that are uncovered at MTH, and I love that the spring season is going to be such a timely season to implement them alongside new friends!"

Her Encouragement for Attendees:  "Come just as you are. Whether you're feeling good in your current season or whether you feel like everything is a mess, you are welcome here! Get ready for two days of solid time focused on you and dozens of new friends who will be cheering you on long after we leave the MTH doors!"

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Emily Ley

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What She's Most Excited for: "Seeing all my FRIENDS!!!!!! Hugging KNW’s babies. Some good quiet time to think."

Her Encouragement for Attendees:  "Be ready to let the unexpected bubble up. Many times I’ve attended MTH with one topic on my mind and left feeling so convicted about another. Being open to let the experience lead you is key!"

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Gina Zeidler

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What She's Most Excited for: "Solid time to DIG DEEP in a room of like-minded humans! Plus encourage others ON!"

Her Encouragement for Attendees:  "Come as you are, even if you feel like you don't quite get what you are coming for or are nervous! We are so excited to LOVE on you through this experience, and I'm just overjoyed to see you!"

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Katelyn James

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What She's Most Excited for: "I'm most looking forward to growing personally through MTH this year. I'm in such a different season than before. We have a surprise baby coming in five months and a one-year-old at home. So much of my business and my perspective on life has changed this past year, and I just have a feeling that MTH is going to be transformational in a new and exciting way this year!"

Her Encouragement for Attendees:  "My encouragement is that CHANGE CAN HAPPEN. I remember feeling SO stuck in my business and in the hamster wheel that I was running on. I am SO thankful that I'm not the same business owner that I was 3-4 years ago. I'm thankful that I'm not the same wife that I was before. Your circumstances don't define the reality of your future, no matter how STUCK you feel!"

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LaShawn Henighan

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What She's Most Excited for: "I'm most looking forward to meeting and fellowshipping with women, just like me, who are really ready to dig deep into bringing what matters in their lives to life and taking it out into the world to shine!"

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Nancy Ray

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What She's Most Excited for: "I’m most looking forward to looking at my entire life - my faith, my motherhood, my work, my relationships - everything - in a brand new light. I’m hungry for fresh perspective, I’m ready for a clean slate, and I know MTH does that for me every single time."

Her Encouragement for Attendees: "Get rid of any expectations you might have. Lay them down. Allow your mind and body the space you need, and allow whatever needs to happen, happen. It’s always the best experience when I let go of my control and expectations and just allow the Lord to guide me through the process. And don’t worry - we will be doing the work right alongside you! Oh - one more thing: waterproof mascara!"

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Rhiannon Bosse

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What She's Most Excited for: "After a challenging 2017 which allowed me to start 2018 with a renewed spirit and changed heart, I'm eager to dive into the hard work we do at Making Things Happen to see how it will again change my life in beautiful ways. Each and every time I return home from Raleigh, I am a new person with a zest for living my most purposeful life yet."

Her Encouragement for Attendees: "Come prepared to get out of Making Things Happen what you put into it. Open your heart. Commit to doing the work. Keep expectations minimal. Know the best is yet to come if you let it."

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Shunta Grant

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What She's Most Excited for: "I am most looking forward to spending phone-free, intentional time among a group of hopeful women who know that there is strength in community and that we all have the ability to live lives that reflect what matters most to us!"

Want to learn more about our in-person intensive? We would LOVE to have you at a future conference! Sign up here to be the first to know when registration opens for future dates!

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